Leotychidas, according to this handy list. He would have stayed at home - that was how it worked, one in the field, one holding the fort.

Greek homosexuality was more on the man-boy love lines than the equal relationship the term implies today. Taking it up the tradesmen's entrance was definitely frowned upon as it meant allowing oneself to be treated like a woman (!) I understand a similar attitude still exists towards ladyboy prostitutes in some mediterranean countries today. Useful summary here.

Nowt so queer as folk, eh? :-)