well, that's an experience.

[burntcopper]

after telling him no and making the mistake of actually replying to his email, it appears Graham went and read that entry, revealed himself to have the maturity of an _insert epithet here_, and said that from the first time he saw me around the office he felt that I was the kind of person he could have a serious relationship with, and justified this because he'd felt the same way the first time he saw his ex. Honey. that's not love. That's lust turned into obsession and fixation. And that he'd only ever gone to shows with me because he wanted to spend time with me. We're talking shows that sometimes cost £30-40 a ticket.

Whole bunch of other stuff.

But yep, told him 'don't ever email me on this subject again'. Essentially he's dead to me.

And bear in mind he still hasn't said word one to my face about this.

And here I thought Brian was a one-off of that type.

Comments

[random-c.livejournal.com]

Oh, no, they're all too common. Chick flicks are to blame, I say.

[jamjar.livejournal.com]

Also, if she's his ex, doesn't that imply that it didn't work out and maybe, just maybe, it's not a good indicator for future relationship success?

[davidcook.livejournal.com]

Pretty common type, especially among geekier/nerdier circles. It's related to the "I'm a Nice Guy, therefore I Deserve to be Rewarded for it" mindset.

[genarti]

Ugh.

[burntcopper.livejournal.com]

amazingly, all the self-described 'Nice Guys' turn out to be utter slimeball creeps. and then they wonder why girls give them a wide berth.

[cidercupcakes.livejournal.com]

UGH. >:(

[cidercupcakes.livejournal.com]

Not strictly a male phenomenon, either, as I have learned!

Hmmm

[andysears.livejournal.com]

I wish it was only guys......
THAT is why cattle prods should be legal in this country !

[burntcopper.livejournal.com]

He never seems to think of this. And now I'm looking back on various bits of his past behaviour in a new light and going 'er....'

[burntcopper.livejournal.com]

with the skin-crawling : utter justification for cutting him dead!

I'm waiting for the 'die, bitch' glares and more speed walking so I can give him shit-eating grins.

[tirinar.livejournal.com]

See? You need a sign. "If we've just met and we're not already having sex it's never gonna happen. No, not ever. Deal."

Also, if he doesn't quit emailing you and you work with him you have grounds for a sexual harrassment complaint. It's any level of unwanted attention, not just 'he grabbed my arse at the photocopier'.

[delle.livejournal.com]

^^

what I was going to say. gee, guy-who-won't-take-no, maybe you should rethink your 'my first impression means we're fated to be together forever' thinking there?