had to happen some day...

[burntcopper]

First to admit my experience is limited, but that was my first experience of '...will you just come already?' (I've had wham bam, I've had '...was that it?', but that was the first time of irritated and getting bored)

:ponders: what is the etiquette of seriously wondering if it's worth shoving them off and putting your clothes back on to go back to the bar/disco? I was actually *relieved* when his roommate's key sounded at the door and we were interrupted. Dammit, world. You didn't have to disillusion me with the fact that good dancing doesn't always equal good in the sack.

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[fahrenheit-f430.livejournal.com]

:ponders: what is the etiquette of seriously wondering if it's worth shoving them off and putting your clothes back on to go back to the bar/disco?

1) Never use "That was... Shit." until you're within sprint distance of the lift.

2) Best exit strategy is grabbing 'em by the shoulders, using THE best terror-stricken look you've got and mumbling "Torncondom!"

But then again, I have no people-skills whatsoever.

[xenaclone.livejournal.com]

Darn. I tend to have B.O.B. on handy for when I absolutely positively HAVE to come. [Battery operated boy]. And that's with hubby who tends to know what rocks my socks after 25+ years. Sometimes one just needs that extra bit of juice.

First time with new fella = not always gonna get a cherry. I suppose you could try the, 'Don't come until I tell you' domme routine to concentrate on your own finish line. Or get New Squeeze to make nice with his fingers/mouth/both before he gets his trousers off.

Bored

[andysears.livejournal.com]

Hmmm...if they don`t know they`re crap, how can they learn ! I suppose it`s good of you that you didn`t hurt their feelings...

[ineptshieldmaid.livejournal.com]

That's truly disappointing :(

Got no useful advice, sorry!

[luckykaa.livejournal.com]

"shoving them off and putting your clothes back on to go back to the bar/disco?"

You should have done:P (And *waves* btw)

-- Neil

[sbp.livejournal.com]

Perhaps you could say "my turn to go on top" - you might find you can control things better that way.

Or he might just be on antidepressants.

[gmh.livejournal.com]

OK. Let's say that, back in the dim and distant past, I've probably been on the other end of something similar; and, as a man, it can be quite incredibly grim and embarrassing.

ObPoint: I'm not talking about ineptitude, lack of empathy, or possibly alcohol-related inadequacy here; but what is technically known as 'ejaculatory incompetence' (hereafter E.I.).

(If, as a man, you don't notice that your partner isn't exactly having a stellar time, well, that's your lookout - and unless you change your ways, you're never going to be anything other than a crap shag.)

However, there are some occasions when, despite being up for it, you simply can't finish; it can be for any number of reasons (often nerves as much as anything); but male orgasm is one thing that you really can't fake; and it's also something that is pretty much assumed will happen by all present.

So, 15 minutes in, nothing is happening; you can pretty much feel the unspoken questions; the mental watch-tapping; the 'if you don't finish soon, I'm not going to be able to walk tomorrow'.

The horrifying thought dawns: I don't think I can.

In a way, I'd say it's worse than impotence; because impotence is at least a clear signal from the off that intercourse is off the cards; you can do any number of other things, but tonight is not shag night.

On the other hand, E.I. is not obvious; all the visual signals are 'wahey!'; but when it comes down to it, no go - and if you keep trying, you'll just add injury to insult.

You're bankrupt in the land of the money shot.

And all of those lurking anxieties that men carry around come out and dance in malicious little circles around your head, while singing songs about how crap you are.

If you're lucky, your partner is having a good time; which makes it far easier for you to say 'er, sorry, I think that there's no punchline to this joke'.

If you're not, then it can be really crappy all round, especially if your partner feels somehow responsible for your failings or says things to that effect.

Of course, this doesn't cover the situation where someone is simply too drunk, or doesn't give a toss about their partner; in those circumstances, well, they deserve a kick in the nuts anyway; but there are occasions when a man simply can't; and it's really not a fun thing to have happen to you.